Stop fighting with yourself over wellness.

Find ease and joy in fitness, healthy eating, and life change.

I Know, I Know—I KNOW

You KNOW regular exercise and eating right are essential for health, wellness, and longevity.

But you're STILL NOT doing the good things you want to be doing for your good health.

So you're stuck. Which is confounding, frustrating, discouraging—and as health deteriorates, alarming.

I know this because I've been in that on-and-off cycle to nowhere more times than I can count on my road to wellness.

But through years of study and testing, I discovered ease—and even joy—with the foundational practices of healthy living.

In doing so, I ended the fight with myself over getting and staying well.

Along the way I also discovered how to share this transformation with others—and I would like to share it with you.

Getting Unstuck

You don't lack willpower, self-discipline, or accountability.

Research has completely debunked those notions, although they unfortunately persist, especially in fitness culture.

The truth is, you have obstacles. Real obstacles.

You have conflicting important priorities that create scheduling challenges that seem insurmountable.

You have interruptions that make it doubly hard to get back to any routine you thought was established.

You also have internal obstacles—limiting beliefs about yourself and perspectives about fitness and diet that make healthy choices harder and no damned fun at all.

These obstacles stop MOST people.

And off-the-shelf fitness and diet plans just DON'T ADDRESS these real-world obstacles...

Which is why they don't work over time. And why we get stuck in that cycle to nowhere.

But these obstacles CAN be identified and set aside. When that happens, essential health practices becomes easy and enjoyable.

Welcome to End the Fight.

The End the Fight Approach

I found this radically simple approach by studying Perpetual Exercisers.

Perpetual Exercisers are regular folks who exercise daily without requiring willpower, self-discipline, or accountability to do so.

It turns out they are NOT different on the surface from those who struggle to get started and to stick with fitness.

They just think about, relate to, and experience exercise differently from those who struggle.

After years of testing in the lab of my own life and collaborations with clients, I learned how to reverse engineer this shift of perspective and experience...

And to bring it about consciously and intentionally.

I call this process the End the Fight approach.

I also found that it generalizes to ANYTHING important we want to transform in our lives—making essential change easy and enjoyable.

Finally get a whole-life wellness plan that works for you AS YOU ARE in your LIFE AS IT IS.

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End the Fight Courses

These 4 key courses are available via live webinar sessions, one-to-one coaching, and in the new End the Fight Lifestyle group coaching community.

Together, Let's End the Fight!

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About Delmar

My personal wellness journey has led me to licensing as a clinical massage therapist, certifying as a personal fitness trainer, NLP Master Practitioner, and Generative Change coach...

And the generally obsessive study of what makes life work well from any wellness practice or wisdom tradition.

My life's work explores how we may reclaim our innate health and how we can live aligned with our deepest values and purpose, doing the work (and play!) in this world that we were uniquely made for.

It's a deeply fulfilling privilege to travel this path with friends...

Delmar